Understand a Child’s Mind

Really understand what is going on in a child’s mind with this technique.

 

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New Yogarate videos for your kids to enjoy!

I hope you enjoy these Yogarate (Yoga and Martial Arts) videos!
NamastAHYAH!
We push the earth to show our strength and power!  Pushing the earth strengthens our upper body and shows us if we can push the earth, we can do anything!
Hammer Fist straight down to break a board or stop a bully.
Yensei teaches how to expand the belly to take big belly breaths.
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Behavior Management Strategies: for ADHD children.

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It’s the middle of the school year and the teacher has been notified by her higher ups that a new student is starting in her classroom today. That morning that child shows up and he is excited. Looking all over the classroom and wanting to touch everything and run around the room looking at everything that’s new. To some people he has too much energy. What three or four letters do you immediately think of as the reader to describe what’s happening with him? Did you say ADD or ADHD? You wouldn’t be the first and you certainly wouldn’t be the last. “That child has too much energy”, we think. “He can’t focus”, we think. The evaluations that we put on that child when he is six might be slightly different when that child is 16 years old and he is running up and down the sports field faster than anyone else. He understands plays and strategy better than the majority of the kids on his team because of his mind’s design. He is being scouted by 7 different colleges looking to cover his entire college tuition. Does he have too much energy now? Or do the other kids have too little energy? It’s all based on how inconvenient it is for the person evaluating that child. Unfortunately we still live in the world where there are teachers that think that their students have to conform and adapt to the teacher and if they don’t then the child is deemed unteachable. Then you have teachers who are loving and open and understand that every generation of children are smarter, quicker, sharper, and faster and it’s completely up to the teacher to adapt their teaching for that child. Also, that teacher that changes for her children doesn’t HAVE TO, she GETS TO. The first is being a victim of the situation. The second is being the source of the situation. One is a teacher that blames others for their happiness and another one is a teacher that chooses responsibility and power. Can’t have both. Which one are you?

 

There was a time where we had limited resources as educators on where to get access to activities to engage children with higher energy. Now we have Google and YouTube so that conversation is obsolete. It wouldn’t take a teacher longer than 60 seconds to find five activities to do with their children whether they are seated, standing, or in a physical movement environment. It’s all up to the teacher to take on that responsibility that they are the champions for their kids as opposed to blame in the child for being the way the child is. Would you take your puppy to an open field or dog park and then when they don’t stop running around and they keep on chasing other dogs while others don’t, would you ever classify them as having too much energy? Of course not. Our happiness and comfort are based exclusively on our perception of our environment and what we make it mean.  Another trap that I’ve fallen into that happens with other educators is that for whatever reason we think that we can figure things out ourselves and don’t need help. That is one of the biggest sabotagers that ensures that we fail. Think about a parent that you as a teacher have had a conversation with that has been tricked by their own mind into thinking that they know what’s best for their child over an educator who’s been working with children for years. Would you go to your heart surgeon and make a suggestion as to how to do the surgery? Would you go to your attorney and tell them how they should run your case? Of course not. They are professionals in their field and have spent many hours studying and working in that field to see what works and what doesn’t. Yet for some reason parents think that they know what’s best for their child and usually it’s just to raise them the opposite way that their parents raised them.

 

Reach out to other educators who have experience with high energy kids. I taught at a school with one brother-sister tag team that were bouncing off the walls and each other. It was amazing to watch. After trying a few things, it seemed that the only thing that worked was showing up 15 early and having them do bear walks, frog jumps, crab walks, kangaroo hops and then finish by sprinting across the backyard area. And I had to reach out to a former associate for suggestions. I needed help and you do too. It’s ok and it doesn’t mean anything about you. Ask for help. People love to help. What could you use help with right now? Who could you ask that would be delighted to help?

I offer my help to start with the article below:

Article about understanding ADHD better. Is it behavioral or neurological?

Picture by Homeschoolfacts.com

Voices in your head

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Have you ever thought about somebody in your life and wondered how they are doing and then within a moment the phone rings and it happens to be them? Have you ever felt like there is something more out there than what you see with your eyes?

Just as we communicate with each other through modern technology like smartphones and tablets, there are channels of communication that are being used yet we don’t hear that phone ring. Unless we are taught to listen. To truly have effective communication with another human being, we need to first have effective communication within ourselves. The first step in doing that is being able to distinguish between the universal voice that guides us if we listen and the ego that steers us in the wrong direction.

If you’re wondering what voice I’m talking about when I mention the ego, then that’s the exact voice that just asked, “what voice is he talking about?” That voice more likely will tell you that if you’re having a long day you’re okay to have a sweet snack that you know is not on your meal program as opposed to telling you to go for an energetic and invigorating walk so that you can de-stress from the day. The brilliance of the ego is that it’s most important goal is to be right.

How often do you like to be wrong? How often do you like to be right? I know a few people in my life that are not in relationships anymore, whether romantic or platonic, because it was more important for them to be right about something than to be happy. When working in a preschool with many different personalities including the children, the parents, and your coworkers, there are many opinions in this mix and everyone thinks that they are right. Try on the next time that you get upset with someone, just ask yourself what’s more important, to be right about the situation or to be happy? You can only choose one. We think we can have both…another trick of the ego. Giving up being right opens up communication from the heart from one human being to another.

Another benefit to you is that your mind will get just a little bit quieter. Imagine not being upset about things in your mind and having them distract you instead of being with your awesome, wonderful children.
If you ever get in a situation where you don’t know what to do, whether it’s a behavioral challenge or a child simply not understanding a lesson, I asked you to take on being the champion of these children and choosing the more difficult task. That task would be to give up being right about the situation. Take as many slow and calming deep breaths with your tongue behind your bottom teeth so that cold air comes through your mouth and cools your body. Then wait for the universal energy to give you the solution. All you have to do is listen.

The first part of your challenge begins now. What are you making right and what are you making wrong about this article? Is it more important that your opinions are true or is it more important that there is a chance that letting go of you being right could magically connect you and transform you into a better champion, a hero for your children. NOW CHOOSE!

Picture by https://www.ramdass.org/ram-dass-on-the-inner-voice/

 

 

Don’t Let Your Child Become a Victim: How To Stop Bullying

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PARENTS, the next few weeks will determine if your child becomes a victim to a bully. Public schools will tell your children if they defend themselves against a bully then they are suspended. I invite you to talk to your child and give them permission to physically defend themselves against a physical bully. And on the day that they stand up for themselves and get suspended from school, I invite you to contact me and I will send you a trophy like this with the engraving “Great job standing up for yourself!” so that your child remembers every day that they will never be a victim of a bully again. I invite you also to remember the exact day they stood up for themselves or their friends and celebrate every year to remind them of the feeling of being a powerful human being.

Links to previous blogposts on how to stop bullying:

https://ronshualiblog.wordpress.com/2016/01/25/how-to-stop-bullying-when-my-child-is-getting-beaten-up-in-school/

https://ronshualiblog.wordpress.com/2016/02/24/how-to-stop-bullying-when-my-childs-friend-is-getting-bullied/

https://ronshualiblog.wordpress.com/2016/03/08/how-to-stop-bullying-bystanders-who-want-to-help-but-dont-want-to-be-outted-as-a-tattletale/

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Why society is weak and our children will suffer without YOUR help.

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What happened to our society? Why are people always offended? What happened to our “right to free speech”? What shifted that now has parents and teachers coddling children and having them believe that the world is a loving and caring place that will never upset them or hurt their feelings? What happened to schools teaching children the realities of life and how to function in a social environment successfully? Parents don’t want their children to be upset because then they would have to talk to their children and deal with the upset. When did this all start? My guess is February 2nd, 2004.

That is the day after the famous wardrobe malfunction brought to you by Janet Jackson and Justin Timberlake. The entire country realized the next day that they can be offended as a whole. People will listen to them complain and whine. “Our children were watching!” was one of the many complaints heard the next day on the news and at the office. Parents complained about having to explain what happened to their children. “It shouldn’t have happened! Why do I now have to explain this to my children? Waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa!!!!!!” Fast forward 20 years later and we live in the delusional society where people think that other people are responsible for their own emotions. Someone says something that offends you, then you and you alone are the only person responsible for making yourself feel better. Or be weak and hope that they will change. Have you ever had a bad habit that people in your life wanted you to stop? The more they wanted you to stop, the more you wanted to do it. So why on earth would we expect others to change their behaviors and the way they think and speak for us?

 

When Donald Sterling made racist remarks, everyone was offended and thought that he should change the way he thinks because our society is moving away from racism. They aren’t going to change. We need to wait for them to die and educate our youth. Slowly we can change society and empower it. Because right now we are disempowering it. Everyone is so afraid of offending everyone else that they have become cowards themselves and unfortunately some of these cowards are responsible for our children when they are at school. Then you have the cowards at home they choose to blame teachers when they are honest with them about how to help their children when they truly need help. Parents used to listen to teachers because they are trained educators and believe what the teachers said over the lies of their children. Now they believe the stories that come out of their children’s mouths and accuse the teacher of “calling my child a liar” because they create a false truth that they are bad parents if their children lie. All children lie. The smarter ones lie more often. Be careful because you might be “shaming liars”.
Shaming this and shaming that. “He made me feel this way. She made me feel that way.” I hope that someday people wake up and realize that none of that happened in reality. What do I mean by that and how dare I say that? We are the only ones responsible for how we respond and react. When you allow something to offend you, you become a victim of your own mind and instead of being responsible and working on yourself, you would rather blame anyone and anything but yourself. It’s called being a human being in this society. Think about the next statement carefully. If I cursed you out and said the most obnoxious, rude, vile disgusting words right to your face, but I did it in another language, would you be offended? Of course not. That is because your brain did not interpret the words and give them meaning so that then you can choose to become upset at the meaning that that you gave the words. When I present my school assemblies on how to stop bullying, the children understand that no one can bully them without their consent.

If you raise your children or teach your students in a way that teaches them the opposite of how society is, then you are doing an amazing disservice to them. If you don’t let your children be upset occasionally then how will they learn how to be upset as adults? If you don’t teach your children that there is disappointment in life, then what happens to them when they are disappointed as adults? If you don’t teach your children to defend themselves both verbally and physically against a bully, then what happens when they are verbally or physically bullied as adults?

I invite you to choose the well-being of the children in your life instead of your own selfishness and I promise you your children will live better, stronger, and more effective lives. I invite you to wake up and see what kind of child you are truly creating.

Photo by Mike Mozart