The truth about the current education system…in 12 minutes. It’s worth the watch!

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Have you ever sat back and thought about your journey through the education system?

Have you ever been bored in class or asked questions like why do we have to learn this?

Do you or your children learn a different way?

Are you a person who thinks outside of the box?

How many of you have ever wondered why schools are not teaching children true skills that they will need in life?

Why is it so important to focus on education and consistently have children work by themselves to memorize information, put it back onto a test, and then forget it like they never learned it?

I consistently hear stories about people who are extremely successful in their fields of interest because they choose to follow their passions as opposed to getting lost and subdued in a typical college environment. What did you learn the last few years of high school and the first two years of college? And why is it that we learn in an educational institute and then typically discovered that the real world is the opposite. When I was 19 I took a 40-hour bartending course, paid $250 for it and then got a job as a bartender. I made no drinks that I learned and poured beers and wine into glasses 98% of the time. I wasn’t a bartender, I was a bottle opening pourer. I then went to real estate school at 21, paid $450 and spent 40 hours of my life learning and storing information. Day 1 of my orientation meeting at my new real estate office my employer’s first words out of his mouth were, “Forget what you learned at real estate school…real estate is only about… “If you are curious as to why the education system is the way that it is, then I invite you to have an eye-opening 12-minute experience by watching this video. If you learned anything from this video then I ask you to share it with others.

12-minute eye-opening video on why our education system is the way it is.

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Breathe in a new way with your family this weekend! Silly and fun, and it works.

This weekend is usually spent with friends and family enjoying BBQ and enjoying a 3 or for some 4 day weekend. As with every journey worth traveled, there may be bumps in the road. For example getting stuck in traffic…or getting your buttons pushed by that one family member that just gets under your skin (Passive-Aggressive Patty). What about your children losing in a game of anything and getting upset and letting you know about it. Before you respond to a person or situation that will not serve you in the future, I offer 4 different types of breathing that will require 30 seconds of your time and a powerful choice to try something new. Each breath is based on an element of nature. Number 1!

EARTH BREATH (belly breathing)

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Place one hand on your belly and one hand right underneath your throat near your collarbone. Take three deep breaths either focusing on something in front of you or even better closing your eyes. Notice if the deep breaths are coming from your belly extending out or your shoulders and chest extending up. Try to then intentionally focus on taking 3 more deep breaths with your belly while keeping your shoulders and chest calm and relaxed. You may have to focus on intentionally pushing your belly out farther than you’ve ever done and then as you breathe out pull your belly in. Then place both hands on your belly and breathe in while extending your belly, and then breathe out and pull your belly in. Belly breathing is a fundamental component of any yoga practice.

WIND BREATH (tongue breathing)

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Cold breathing is designed to relax the body and give a sensation of coolness and calming. Take your tongue and place it behind your bottom teeth. While keeping your tongue behind your bottom teeth take a deep breath in with your mouth. What do you feel? Do you feel the cooling sensation of the air gliding over the top of your tongue? That cooling sensation will help a child or adult relax their bodies and become instantaneously more calm and aware.

FIRE BREATH (nose breathing)

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Fire breathing through the nose is designed to invigorate and energize the human doing it. I first suggest that you blow your nose really well so that nothing comes out while you do this. Fire breathing is breathing in and out of your nose as fast as possible while keeping your mouth closed. As you continue to do this your abdomen will automatically be breathing in and out for you.

WATER BREATH (rib breathing)

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The water element invites us to do our jellyfish breathing. When you breathe in with your belly your chest is still compressed so we tend to not get the fullness of the breath. With jellyfish breathing, we have our arms go up in the air floating like jellyfish so that our rib cage extends and we get to fill our lungs with a deeper breath. Try the jellyfish breathing in two parts. 1st be intentional about breathing in and making your belly big and then once your belly is full of air then raise your arms up like they are floating to the sky and open up your rib cage and see how much additional air you can fill in.

Try these with your children and other friends in your life and you will see a huge difference. How often do you get to take five breaths for yourself? This weekend I invite you to breathe and enjoy life. Have a wonderful weekend.

Behavior Management Strategies: To Tire and Strengthen Your Children!

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Physical fitness is proven to help a child develop a strong body and mind. Exercise increases oxygen intake into the body and works muscles and organs to keep us in Tip-Top shape. Sometimes we as adults make excuses as how we can’t get to exercise because we don’t have time. I’ve also heard that in many schools as well. Body weight calisthenics are a key component in my school assemblies as they implement different animals to use different parts of the body. These animal movements increase heart and lung power, strengthen all the muscles in the body and increase ligament and tendon flexibility. It also lets us be silly. And one of the best behavior management strategies I know is to get your children tired!

Below is a list of animals that we use in our classes . Included in the list are beginner basics like a bear crawl and a kangaroo hop to more difficult animals like the inchworm and gorilla. Try these out with your kids, especially before it’s time to nap. Yes, I suggested YOU try them out as well. If you do, you’ll feel a complete body change immediately after. If you know any other animals that are on this list, feel free to email me and I would love to add it and give you credit. And try to make the noises as best you can so that you can feel silly and light-hearted again. Let me hear you growl!!

  • Bear walk – walking on hands and feet
  • Frog jump – baby frog jump is squatting down all the way, heels off the ground and jumping. Super frog jump is when same frog jump is done however knees are brought into chest for additional height. Instruct children to land on balls of feet like a cat.
  • Crab walk – start sitting on bottom. Feet are flat. Hands are flat under shoulders. Fingers pointing toward toes. Lift bottom off of the ground and walk either forward, backwards, or sideways.
  • Snake slither – child is on belly, arms are in front, feet are crossed, and they slither around the room making any S sounds.
  • Monkeying around – is just basically bucking around, any sort of body movement, walking on your hands or feet, your legs jumping. Monkeying with a combination of bear and frog.
  • Kangaroo hops – kangaroo is when feet are together, knees slightly bent, elbows are tight to body and hands are in front and you are hoping, sometimes a “boing” sound. This exercise is great to finish off any animal exercise and go right into karate because it’s easy for any kid.
  • Seal crawl– seal is when your lower body is laying on the ground and your legs do not move and your upper body is pulling your lower body.
  • Tiger pounce – walk on all fours slowly for muscle tension, then get real low while trying to keep the body off the ground. Take a giant jump forward or straight up like a tiger pouncing on its prey.
  • Bunny hops – like kangaroo except hands are over ears making bunny sounds, which also increases shoulder strength.
  • Inch worm – student lies on stomach, hands on the ground, then jumps their feet up to their shoulders. Then they walk the hands out further and then jumps the feet up to the shoulders and walks hands out further and repeat.
  • Gorilla – Just like a bear walk, however the child is developing wrist strength by walking on their fists. Either knuckles forward or sideways work.

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Behavior Management Strategies: For children with autism.

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In March of 2016 I had the true pleasure of observing a gym class at the Douglas school in Rutgers University in New Brunswick, NJ. I had worked with autistic children before but only on an individual basis and sitting down with my two interns at the time to watch the gym class was truly an extraordinary experience. What I saw was a group of adults with patience and compassion in their hearts working one-on-one with these kids. They range from ages 10 all the way to 17. The class was an hour long and the kids had a great time. After having a lengthy conversation with the physical education teacher, he let us come back to do a sample class of Yogarate.
After teaching the first class I fell in love with all of those kids. Their uniqueness and their gifts were awe inspiring. Some of the kids picked up on the martial arts and the deep breathing immediately and were able to focus better than some of my other students in traditional schools. These kids had a yearning to communicate and there was something in the way that I was committed to figuring out. With the assistance of some unique associates and friends, I began the journey of inquiry. One of these amazing angels on earth is a lady by the name of Nicole who is a nutrition specialist and much more. She also focuses on other modalities of health and wellness.  From her I learned about how color dyes and preservatives in food have a direct link to autism. With a wealth of information at her fingertips, she shared with me two articles that opened my eyes. However the articles that she shared with me intrigued and frustrated me, I made sure to read them. Even if it took me 3 sittings.

I have shared both articles below. The first article talks about how an autistic family completely changed their families diet and within three weeks their child had displayed dramatically less autistic characteristics than ever before. The second article is a case study that talks about the lack of omega-3 and omega-6 fatty acids and how a deficiency in the body can affect children and adults with depression, ADHD, and autism just to name a few. Pause and think about it for a moment. Our bodies adapt to the environment that they’re put in and what we put into our mouths is the most important thing to be aware of in the realm of solving all of our ailments. My invitation to you is this… If you or anyone that you know have children or adults that have been diagnosed with ADHD, depression, bipolar, or Autism, I offer to you the opportunity to read these two articles. That is going to be the easy part. Actually having the power to make changes in your diet is going to be the hard part, especially if your kids are already addicted to things like gluten and fake foods that have different colored dyes in them. I get it. And you can still get them gluten free organic pizza and chicken nuggets.

You get to make a choice whether to take a stand for the well-being of your family or to keep giving them food poison so that they have continued challenges through the rest of their life. It’s not your children’s responsibility to go food shopping, it is yours. You get to choose right now to be a powerful stand for your family and make the right choices in the realm of nutrition no matter how hard it is in the beginning. A month will go by and you will look back and laugh as you realize it wasn’t that difficult. You’ve made important changes in your life and you survived and maybe even thrived. You can do it again for your family. What could it hurt? It could only change your family’s life forever. Is that worth it to you? I hope so. I’m honored that you read this blog post and I hope that you enjoy the articles as well. The second one is a case study so feel free to skip around to what pertains your child. I acknowledge you for being a powerful champion for your family. Get that that is a CHOICE that you make. Go you! Hi-five!

Curing autism with food

Why Omega 3 & 6 Oils help autism, ADHD, Bi-Polar and much more.

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Behavior Management Strategies: for ADHD children.

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It’s the middle of the school year and the teacher has been notified by her higher ups that a new student is starting in her classroom today. That morning that child shows up and he is excited. Looking all over the classroom and wanting to touch everything and run around the room looking at everything that’s new. To some people he has too much energy. What three or four letters do you immediately think of as the reader to describe what’s happening with him? Did you say ADD or ADHD? You wouldn’t be the first and you certainly wouldn’t be the last. “That child has too much energy”, we think. “He can’t focus”, we think. The evaluations that we put on that child when he is six might be slightly different when that child is 16 years old and he is running up and down the sports field faster than anyone else. He understands plays and strategy better than the majority of the kids on his team because of his mind’s design. He is being scouted by 7 different colleges looking to cover his entire college tuition. Does he have too much energy now? Or do the other kids have too little energy? It’s all based on how inconvenient it is for the person evaluating that child. Unfortunately we still live in the world where there are teachers that think that their students have to conform and adapt to the teacher and if they don’t then the child is deemed unteachable. Then you have teachers who are loving and open and understand that every generation of children are smarter, quicker, sharper, and faster and it’s completely up to the teacher to adapt their teaching for that child. Also, that teacher that changes for her children doesn’t HAVE TO, she GETS TO. The first is being a victim of the situation. The second is being the source of the situation. One is a teacher that blames others for their happiness and another one is a teacher that chooses responsibility and power. Can’t have both. Which one are you?

 

There was a time where we had limited resources as educators on where to get access to activities to engage children with higher energy. Now we have Google and YouTube so that conversation is obsolete. It wouldn’t take a teacher longer than 60 seconds to find five activities to do with their children whether they are seated, standing, or in a physical movement environment. It’s all up to the teacher to take on that responsibility that they are the champions for their kids as opposed to blame in the child for being the way the child is. Would you take your puppy to an open field or dog park and then when they don’t stop running around and they keep on chasing other dogs while others don’t, would you ever classify them as having too much energy? Of course not. Our happiness and comfort are based exclusively on our perception of our environment and what we make it mean.  Another trap that I’ve fallen into that happens with other educators is that for whatever reason we think that we can figure things out ourselves and don’t need help. That is one of the biggest sabotagers that ensures that we fail. Think about a parent that you as a teacher have had a conversation with that has been tricked by their own mind into thinking that they know what’s best for their child over an educator who’s been working with children for years. Would you go to your heart surgeon and make a suggestion as to how to do the surgery? Would you go to your attorney and tell them how they should run your case? Of course not. They are professionals in their field and have spent many hours studying and working in that field to see what works and what doesn’t. Yet for some reason parents think that they know what’s best for their child and usually it’s just to raise them the opposite way that their parents raised them.

 

Reach out to other educators who have experience with high energy kids. I taught at a school with one brother-sister tag team that were bouncing off the walls and each other. It was amazing to watch. After trying a few things, it seemed that the only thing that worked was showing up 15 early and having them do bear walks, frog jumps, crab walks, kangaroo hops and then finish by sprinting across the backyard area. And I had to reach out to a former associate for suggestions. I needed help and you do too. It’s ok and it doesn’t mean anything about you. Ask for help. People love to help. What could you use help with right now? Who could you ask that would be delighted to help?

I offer my help to start with the article below:

Article about understanding ADHD better. Is it behavioral or neurological?

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Voices in your head

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Have you ever thought about somebody in your life and wondered how they are doing and then within a moment the phone rings and it happens to be them? Have you ever felt like there is something more out there than what you see with your eyes?

Just as we communicate with each other through modern technology like smartphones and tablets, there are channels of communication that are being used yet we don’t hear that phone ring. Unless we are taught to listen. To truly have effective communication with another human being, we need to first have effective communication within ourselves. The first step in doing that is being able to distinguish between the universal voice that guides us if we listen and the ego that steers us in the wrong direction.

If you’re wondering what voice I’m talking about when I mention the ego, then that’s the exact voice that just asked, “what voice is he talking about?” That voice more likely will tell you that if you’re having a long day you’re okay to have a sweet snack that you know is not on your meal program as opposed to telling you to go for an energetic and invigorating walk so that you can de-stress from the day. The brilliance of the ego is that it’s most important goal is to be right.

How often do you like to be wrong? How often do you like to be right? I know a few people in my life that are not in relationships anymore, whether romantic or platonic, because it was more important for them to be right about something than to be happy. When working in a preschool with many different personalities including the children, the parents, and your coworkers, there are many opinions in this mix and everyone thinks that they are right. Try on the next time that you get upset with someone, just ask yourself what’s more important, to be right about the situation or to be happy? You can only choose one. We think we can have both…another trick of the ego. Giving up being right opens up communication from the heart from one human being to another.

Another benefit to you is that your mind will get just a little bit quieter. Imagine not being upset about things in your mind and having them distract you instead of being with your awesome, wonderful children.
If you ever get in a situation where you don’t know what to do, whether it’s a behavioral challenge or a child simply not understanding a lesson, I asked you to take on being the champion of these children and choosing the more difficult task. That task would be to give up being right about the situation. Take as many slow and calming deep breaths with your tongue behind your bottom teeth so that cold air comes through your mouth and cools your body. Then wait for the universal energy to give you the solution. All you have to do is listen.

The first part of your challenge begins now. What are you making right and what are you making wrong about this article? Is it more important that your opinions are true or is it more important that there is a chance that letting go of you being right could magically connect you and transform you into a better champion, a hero for your children. NOW CHOOSE!

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How to Stop Bullying: with a great video to watch with your child!

Watch this video with your child. It has good tips on solutions to a mental bullying situation. Like anything in life, we start as a beginner with a new task. In my school assemblies, we practice what we are taught immediately as a walk around to all the children and bully them in front of their teachers. Luckily they use the Power Look and say “and?” repeatedly to stop the mental bullying. Practice this with your children so when the time comes and they are faced with a mental bully, they are proficient in what to do. The same goes with a physical bully. Enroll your child in a martial arts program for their own good. Martial arts provides the vehicle for learning self-respect, self-esteem and confidence. Don’t assume they are taught in school, because we all know what happens when you assume…I hope you enjoy the video. Be well.

How to stop bullying: yourself with negativity and upset.

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Having anger towards someone else is like drinking poison waiting for that person to die. With all the negative energy surrounding this election, pre and post, I wonder how many people realize that the anger they are putting out towards others and society is only taking a physical toll on themselves. Our bodies are intelligent creations. The body absorbs energy and gives it out on a huge level and whenever we read or watch something that makes us feel negatively about it, it chemically shifts our body chemistry. Look up Dr. Masaru Emoto’s work on how emotions and thoughts change water. You’ll learn that since our bodies are two-thirds water, our emotions alter our own bodies immensely.
You have the ultimate choice on how upset you want to be. No one can make you upset and that’s a fact. If that statement triggered or bothered you, think about this example. If someone made fun of you in a language that you understood, you would react in a certain way. However if they made fun of you in a language that you didn’t understand, your reaction would be different. They are still making fun of you and the intention and body language is still there. You as the human with the ears hear the words coming out of the other human’s mouth, interpret them, give the meaning, then choose how to respond to them all in a matter of milliseconds. You as the human are the only person that gets to determine how you respond. Unless of course you do what the average human does and tries to get rid of responsibility as fast as possible. How much easier is it to say that someone else made fun of you and made you upset as opposed to actually realizing that you are the only source of your own upset because of how you respond to situations. Especially how you create expectations in your own mind on how people and things should be and then when the expectations do not fulfill themselves, you as a human would dare not choose to be responsible because of your own created expectation in your mind. You would rather choose to blame everything else but oneself.

The problem is that you don’t realize the cost is your power, commitment to yourself, self-expression, and absolute freedom from your own mind. You could be breathing deeply, enjoying a tasty beverage, playing with a dog or just being free from upset. Imagine the free time and energy you would have if you had nothing to complain about. True, wonderful, delicious freedom. Try it. Think about something that “shouldn’t be that way”. Then try accepting it as it was your choice. Choose the presidential nominee that you didn’t want. Then choose the one you wanted. Then choose differently. You can change your choices every second. You have this power. Things don’t have to be a certain way.
I just watched the video below about paying it forward at a supermarket. It was so beautiful. How do you feel when someone pays for your gas, tool, your food in front of you? How would that make you feel? Do you want to learn how to stop bullying yourself? Maybe instead of continuing to make yourself upset by living in your mind and thinking that you’re unfulfilled expectations are ruining your joy, pay for someone’s food. Even if it’s a gallon of milk. Feel that sensation. Enjoy that. Look at the smile on the person’s face. Feel that love from your heart to theirs. The only way to really change is to change ourselves. I hope you enjoy the video below. Pay It Forward. We’re the only ones that get to choose our future. I dare you to take action.

https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=10154604490480320&id=619315319

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Stranger Danger Tips for the Halloween Season.

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Halloween is one week away. I can’t imagine the excitement building up in your children as Halloween aka candy day approaches. Is this your child’s first year going without you? Or are you the official parent that hovers on the sidewalk waiting. Do you check all their candy? And I don’t mean by chewing it yourself first. Below are some quick Halloween safety tips from the National Center for Missing & Exploited Children that will make your Halloween the most fun. Before you read theirs, listen to mine. Use your instinct. Trust your gut. That universal energy that flows through all of us and gets us where we want to go, sometimes magically, is to be honored and trusted. If you see someone and your stomach turns, move away from them. If you walk towards a house something about it doesn’t feel right, walk past it. Will you make the time to have this conversation with your children or will you blame everyone but yourself if something happens. Trust your gut. Talk to your children before Halloween.

TEN THINGS PARENTS CAN DO TO MAKE HALLOWEEN SAFER

The National Center for Missing & Exploited Children Tells Parents
How They Can Build Safety into Halloween this Year

  • CHOOSE bright, flame-retardant costumes or add reflective tape to costumes and candy bags so children are easily seen in the dark.  In addition, carry a glow stick or flashlight.
  • PLAN a trick-or-treating route in familiar neighborhoods with well-lit streets.  Avoid unfamiliar neighborhoods, streets that are isolated, or homes that are poorly lit inside or outside.
  • NEVER send young children out alone.  They should always be accompanied by a parent or another trusted adult.  Older children should always travel in groups.
  • ALWAYS walk younger children to the door to receive treats and don’t let children enter a home unless you are with them.
  • BE SURE children do not approach any vehicle, occupied or not, unless you are with them.
  • DISCUSS basic pedestrian safety rules that children should use when walking to and from houses.
  • CONSIDER organizing a home or community party as an alternative to “trick-or-treating.”
  • MAKE sure children know their home phone number and address in case you get separated.  Teach children how to call 911 in an emergency.
  • TEACH children to say “NO!” or “this is not my mother/father” in a loud voice if someone tries to get them to go somewhere, accept anything other than a treat, or leave with them.  And teach them that they should make every effort to get away by kicking, screaming and resisting.
  • REMIND children to remain alert and report suspicious incidents to parents and/or law enforcement.

Knowledge is power and knowing what to do in a situation involving a possible child abduction is extremely important in this day and age. If you or your school are ever looking for school assembly ideas to assist you in teaching your child what to do in a stranger situation we offer a powerful “Outsmart the Stranger” assembly program that can be brought into your home, school, troop or camp. Click on the following link school assembly ideas to learn more about the programs.We hope you have a wonderful rest of the school year. Stay safe and take care.

 

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Don’t Let Your Child Become a Victim: How To Stop Bullying

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PARENTS, the next few weeks will determine if your child becomes a victim to a bully. Public schools will tell your children if they defend themselves against a bully then they are suspended. I invite you to talk to your child and give them permission to physically defend themselves against a physical bully. And on the day that they stand up for themselves and get suspended from school, I invite you to contact me and I will send you a trophy like this with the engraving “Great job standing up for yourself!” so that your child remembers every day that they will never be a victim of a bully again. I invite you also to remember the exact day they stood up for themselves or their friends and celebrate every year to remind them of the feeling of being a powerful human being.

Links to previous blogposts on how to stop bullying:

https://ronshualiblog.wordpress.com/2016/01/25/how-to-stop-bullying-when-my-child-is-getting-beaten-up-in-school/

https://ronshualiblog.wordpress.com/2016/02/24/how-to-stop-bullying-when-my-childs-friend-is-getting-bullied/

https://ronshualiblog.wordpress.com/2016/03/08/how-to-stop-bullying-bystanders-who-want-to-help-but-dont-want-to-be-outted-as-a-tattletale/

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